Hollywood to Holistic with Amber Valdez

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Hello and welcome to the vacay podcast. I'm Ryan Alfred, your cohost, my friend, my partner, and my cohost Chris Hansen is in Miami. We have a little technical difficulties, but we don't care because you know why we've got a badass, but she's also former TV personality, ex cheerleader and a bestselling author and what I like best spiritual awakening guide, Amber Valdez. What's up Amber? Hola. How y'all doing?

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Hey, we're good. We're just going to push on through. We appreciate you getting on, Amber. Where's home today? Oh my goddess. I'm coming at you from Mallorca, Spain, on this beautiful island off side of Barcelona. It's hot, no caliente, but it's one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. So it's pretty awesome. I'm enjoying the Spain life, slower pace, people not as stressed out. Everything shuts down at two or three, because people go home and take a nap.

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As we should learn from them, then that restaurants open back up around six or seven PM and people eat at 10, 11 at night. Chris knows a little about that, that Miami lifestyle, but yeah, I love a slower pace. It's much needed for me. What I like best, at least at this, by the end of the podcast, it's going to be a lot more, but what I like best is we can now say we're an international show because we had everyone from Spain. Yes. You worldwide. Yes. Worldwide.

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No matter what. Amber, you've been up to a lot. I felt like I was living vicariously through you, all your traveling and all the stuff you've been up to. It's been a wild ride. Oh my God, it's has it ever. I never in a million years, growing up on food stamps and free lunches in San Jose, California, whatever, my mom and dad, my dad's on the other side now, but never even left the country. My dad didn't even have a passport. So the fact that I've been blessed enough to...

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have at 33 made the pivot, which I'm sure we'll dive into, but to be traveling and to seeing places from Portugal to Bali to India and back again and around, it's pretty remarkable sometimes when I sit back and think about, I never in a million years thought I'd be living the life I was living. Didn't go to college and addict father, mentally ill mother, like definitely barely almost graduated high school, did not ever think that I'd be.

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be in the space I am now. So super grateful. But what that says to me, and I say this all the time, you hear it and you read these quotes and stuff, but it's all about the person. It all starts with you. Like you can have these degrees and you can do these things that society tells us like are markers of success. But at the end of the day, you just got to go out and make life happen for you. Whatever that looks like. Right. 100%. I'm so grateful.

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I remember I worked first time at 12 and babysitting and all the things. My mom would keep my paychecks and you can't, we can't afford you to be a cheerleader. And I'm like, I'm going to make the money from my cheer outfits and I'm going to, I'm going to make it happen. Super grateful actually. And I think the family, I believe the families we chose are a direct reflection of the lessons that we need to learn and the skills we need to learn. Right. So we can be victim to the families that we decided to be in before we carnated, or we can really just realize that a lot of those.

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experiences create us to be the person we are. So I'm grateful and thankful that I wasn't grown in a spoon fed family that I learned resourceful. Because when people so easily say to me, Oh, I could never do that, or I can't happen or can't afford that. I've always said, watch me. Like, I'm going to make it happen. No matter what, whether it was making the NFL with no dance training. And you know what people said, your boobs aren't big enough. Your nose is too big. You can't kick you don't have the splits down this that and was like, watch me like I'm Yes, I will.

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And so I think there's something to be said about resourcefulness and being relentlessly unwavering in the pursuit of what you want. If someone tells me, no, I'm like, Ooh, let me see how I can make this guess. Who else do I have to ask? Where else do I have to go? Make a way out of no way is one of my mantras. So thanks for seeing that. Yeah. And I use one of my favorite words and it's literally, I've talked to a lot of interview done in podcasting for a while, interviewed some of the most successful, wealthiest people in the world. And

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Everybody always wants to know the secret to success. And the number one repetitive trait that they bring up and that I've always believed in is resourcefulness. That'll look like it's just amazing. Once you figure out that you've got to make it happen for yourself and you will find a way it's just, it's, I don't know. I don't know if you could train it or teach it. It seems to be an aid on some level.

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Oh my God, I'm so glad you brought this up. This is something that's so alive in my heart this week is just like really trying to find even more compassion for people and their excuses and how there's 24 hours in a day and you have people who are like, you probably interviewed extremely successful and then you have people the same amount a day and they're full of their victims to their excuses and their circumstances. And a phrase I'll often say to people when they're like on the fence about investing in a program I lead or in my coaching or retreat or what have you is, if your life depended on it, could you figure it out?

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I was actually on a call with someone yesterday and in a corporate job, miserable. I won't go down that path, but I said, what would happen if your AC went out tomorrow? You guys live in hot places. I would get a lump. It's a necessity. It's like, exactly. You would come up with the 15, 20 K that you needed to buy the air conditioning, but why can't we just be as committed to our own growth, our own spiritual growth, our own transformation as we would to...

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It's a necessity that I am not melting in my house. And so there's always a way. If your child's life depended on it, if the love of your life's life depended on it, you wouldn't create a way to come up with that money. And that's the distinction between the people who are successful in their life and ones that just hope, wish, and want their entire life and complain and are a victim to their circumstances instead of the master of them. I truly believe that. I often say need inspires innovation. Want doesn't always.

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It does though. It drives you as you need it. So you get resourceful, get creative, you get these things. I think that's where a lot of innovative stuff comes from. And, but if you just want something, if you aren't truly uncomfortable, then the, the average tend to just leave it alone. It takes Oh, love our comfort, especially us in the Western world. We love our comfort. And I blame Amazon Prime and I blame Uber and Uber Eats.

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where it's like instant gratification, we need it yesterday, right? Audiobooks, all this like beautiful technology, but it really makes us lazy as a society that makes comfort being like has to be the most important thing, right? It's like we always want more comfortable. Now we want our seat to massage us and blow air in our back. I was like test driving some BMWs like last year when my car got totaled. And I remember like getting in the car, I was like, what is happening? They're like, oh, this is because it's hot in Texas. And

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You need to blow your air because you don't want to sweat. You don't want to wrinkle your I'm like, okay, this is crazy. I do not need air blowing seats on my back. I'm cool with just basic AC, but it's like we have these like things. We're trying to constantly be more comfortable, but like why? Like we're on this planet of contrast. So I think I see people walking everywhere here. Right. Like when I lived in LA, I'm here in Spain, everyone's walking. They're carrying their groceries, doing all the things like it's just normal.

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And not having AC here is normal. And people don't complain about it because it's just the way it is. So I feel like there's so many beautiful things that can keep us stuck. But if we're striving in the space of always looking for comfort, it's interesting because I think even comfort sometimes is even an illusion, especially with people who bitch moaning complain about their matrix shitty jobs and, but yet they don't do anything about it.

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So it's like they're getting on the crazy train to know no wereville every day going to that job they hate and despise. But they're like completely ignoring their like, inner knowing telling them it's time to go and they just get on this hamster wheel to know where ville and they're complaining about the job they hate but they're still going to it. And it's like at any point you can get off the hamster wheel but it's so hard for so many of us because we're actually really comfortable being uncomfortable we're actually really comfortable with beats with suffering and struggle.

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And I think there's that too, right? Where, with your background, and then we just jumped into it. That we just don't, we're just on the spirit wave here. We're like going right in. But I do wanna set the table for everybody, Amber. You talked about some of your background. But did you always have this spiritual side? Was it just, you've unearthed it even more? I wanna, let's tell everybody a little bit more about your journey into this role you're in now and where all that originated.

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Thank you so much for asking that. I don't think anybody's ever really asked me that before. Growing up as a little girl, my dad would always talk to me about like energy and like white light and things like this. And so I think I got my first crystal topsy-turvy over there that my dad gave me. I don't have a lot of things from my dad. He's on the other side now. But one of the things I do have is this crystal he gave me when I was 11 and the just the boards. And I always...

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felt energies and we talked about angels and like white light and stuff like that. My dad was big in the conspiracy theories, he used to listen to this alien radio shows. And so I was learning about all this stuff that like is now coming out with the chips and the this and the that and the mark of the beast and all these things. So like when all this stuff was coming out, I'm like, yeah, I've been hearing this since I was 11 years old. This is nothing new, right? The spiritual warfare, the light in the dark and all the things. And so I think I got that from my dad.

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I think as a little girl, I definitely could feel spirits. I don't remember ever actually seeing ghosts or seeing spirits, but I will walk into a room and if there's something in there, my whole body just like freaks out. So I'm definitely very intuitive in that space. I used to be very scared of it. I also grew up in the Catholic church and the Christian church and so there was all this like demons and devils and there was like all this like projection about those. And so I gave my power away.

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So I remember when I was in Seattle and I was cheering in the NFL and I was doing an internship at the Fox affiliate there and they had us go to this haunted hospital, this haunted children's hospital. And I literally had the total breakdown in there because there were so many ghosts in there that my whole body was just like, I could feel the temperature change. Like all the things were happening. So I had a panic attack and like basically ran out of there and the cameraman was just like, what the hell is going on with this girl? But it was like, there was so many little kids there that I couldn't deny it.

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And so I think that I've been very sensitive in that space, but I also think that I like turned it off. So I'm imagining as a little girl, I've probably made mentions of things and I'm sure I was shut down, which is generally what happens with people's spiritual gifts. They're in families that don't understand yet or believe it. In my case, that was evil. So I'm pretty much imagining that I was condoned or spanked or made bad or wrong probably for being really energetically sensitive. That's interesting.

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I think we're all impact, obviously. It's like, I ask this nature versus nurture kind of question all the time, because it's really fascinating to me, because I think we are undoubtedly impacted by our environment. But just like we were talking about before, at a certain point, you gotta just have the hoots for it to get over it like yourself and go, okay, I was impacted by this, I'm gonna acknowledge it. But then...

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but this is what I'm gonna do and be and all those things. But we all have innate traits and things like that. And it sounds like in everything I've seen on your stuff that you've had this spiritual child baked into you. It feels that way. Yeah, I feel as a young girl, because of the environment, growing up on food stamps and free lunches and a dad who was an addict and an addict with addiction and a mom who was mentally ill, I really had to make a way out of no way and make things happen if I wanted things to happen. So I had a really...

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I would manifest things. And I remember friends being like, why is that happening, Amber? Why'd she win that? Or, you know, what, she's so lucky. And there was like, but I was like, no, I just believe it so. And it wasn't until I was 19 years old, I was in Seattle at a metaphysical bookstore and a book called, You Can Hear Your Life literally fell off the shelf. And it's by this author, Louise Hay. She's one of my greatest mentors. I never got to meet her in the physical form while she was on this planet. But this woman like healed herself of cancer twice. She like,

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had a crazy childhood. She started, she wrote her first book at 40 or something. She had her first, her publisher at 50 and she's been one of the greatest like spiritual publishers and like thousands of authors, I would say on her books. And she was kept reinventing herself till she was 95, but through the power of thought, through the power of the words, our spells, spelling our work, create our reality. So she literally retrained herself. I love herself and she retrained and

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really healed herself from these diseases, which is, I believe, cancerous, trapped, behavior, resentment, guilt, and shame. And she was all of a sudden, her book was like the Quran or the Bible for me. It's like everything started to make sense. Like why I felt the way I did, why I was calling in the partners I was, my beliefs around my from my mom and my dad and the scarcity deep in my lineage and everything started just kind of line up. Right. It was like, oh my God.

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I've been manifesting my whole life, but I never knew that was a thing. I didn't know about the law of attraction. It's very normal now for those things to be real for people. But back then it was like, this is just the way I live my life. I'm going to will this to happen and I'm going to be so intently focused on it that the universe has to co-conspire for me. It's like plan A only. There was never a plan B. And if someone said I can't, I'd be like, watch me. And so-

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I remember in high school, I was running for this state office, this marketing organization, and I wanted to be the secretary. And my mom was like, we can't afford that, which I heard that a lot as a child. Oh, God, here we go again. We can't afford it. Right. So I was like, I'm going to raise it. I'm going to figure it out. And I got on the phone. I opened the phone book. Yes, I was graduate high school 1996. There were still phone books back then. So I get in the phone book and I'm looking for office supply stores and I'm getting the

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stickers and the pens and the poster board and everything donated. And I got the entire campaign, which would have been thousands of dollars completely donated. And of course I want, right? Like I willed it to happen and people were blown away by the resourcefulness back to your point of like how this girl could create this. But I was so committed to what I wanted that I was relentless in the pursuit of my dreams.

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and realizing that when you put that much intention into something, the universe has to co-conspire. You can make anything happen. So when people say, oh, I can't this and I can't that and I can't afford that and I could never and it's like the universe goes and so it is and so it is and so it is, which is why the same you've heard the sugar pill. You heard the sugar pill, what do you call it? Scientific project where they had three people with cancer and they gave them all pills and they told them that was the cure.

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And then they told him JK, and then two people were like, who cares, we're cancer free, woohoo. And then the one person was like, oh my God, what do you mean it wasn't real? And of course the cancer came back, right? So it's like the power of thought is the most powerful thing in the world, and it moves the world. It's like we can truly create and manifest anything we want. So I think like, I never knew that was spirituality. I just had this baseline of this is how life is, and being very connected to nature.

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and very connected to the water, being very connected to the trees and being super sensitive to things and growing up in an environment with a narcissistic mother that was just like, stop crying, what are you crying about? There wasn't a lot of space for anybody to be like holding my emotion, but I still didn't let that like completely take my light away. But what I really did is that I realized because I didn't have a cheerleader, I wanted to be the cheerleader for others I never had. And I think that's why cheerleading saved my life.

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Like I think that if I didn't have cheerleading in high school where I'd have to focus on the team and focus on the athletes and focus on bringing joy, I think I would have probably ended up dead, knocked up, or addicted to drugs because there was so much abuse going on in my life that I remember crying on the football field, like watching the team and then turning around and then just like putting on this fake smile, right? Like pretending everything's okay when it was like horribly abusive and cold.

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And people just assumed because I was a cheerleader and I was happy that I was, but it was like child protective services were in and out of my house. It was gnarly, but no one knew that. Right. So I wore this mask. And I think that that's what got me as I had my dark-eyed soul. And I was in the pursuit of television and I was the host of my new show in high school and then moved into Los Angeles and pursued that dream for 10 years. And again, Spirit kept bringing me these opportunities. I'm the...

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assistant to the executive vice president of the mobile division at CBS TV. And then all of a sudden they're like, can you go read sports? We know sports. Can you go read the football sports? I'm like, yeah, of course. Doing it in a closet and like going back to my desk and like just really crazy, like unfolding of following the crumbs. They're coming into this pursuit of searching for my work. If I'm famous, then my family will love me. And if I'm famous and I'm on television, then I've made it and I'm worthy.

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If my body's in perfect shape because I'm playing laundry football and I'm having one protein shake and I'm running like routes for five hours, puking in a basket, not eating a carb, but I'm smoking cigarettes and like taking shots at the club, I'm super healthy because look how I have a six pack but dying inside. Right. So it was like this whole I thought it looked the part, but then it was like the slow burn. I don't want to be on TV anymore. I don't want to gossip about celebrities. I don't love myself.

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I don't know who I am. I'm chasing this dream to make me feel whole and complete and loved by my mom and the mean girls in high school accepting me, but for what cost? And so that was like the slow breakdown of my spiritual awakening and this like death portal that like my dad died, he was my hero. Granted, yes, he was an addict and he was in and out of my life, but like he was sober for the last 13 years of my life. And I love him so much and I'm still so connected to him.

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And he believed in me. And as he got sober, he was doing all the work and was like, you're beautiful. And you can do anything you want. And everything is possible. And you deserve this. And he was just always feeding these positive affirmations into my head. And he was the only person that saw me. And I could tell the first time I had sex or the first time I did ecstasy or all the things. There was this acceptance that I didn't have from anyone. So when my dad died, my whole world fell apart. And it was like, my cheerleader is dead.

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And then it was like the slow burn of being in a relationship with a sex addict and then like finding out he's having sex with strangers. So my whole sense of safety was like, okay, my my only man in my life is gone. The man I would go to with my heartbreak is gone. Now, the guy who filled the shoes is completely disrespecting me. I know. Oh, I don't matter. I'm not good enough, right? Because this person can't stay committed, which is not true, right? It's his shit. But so it was like my dad died.

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And then I found out my boyfriend was doing treacherous things. Then I just got off of the reality show. I was bullied on by these girls, which activated all my inner wounding of not enoughness and not good enough and being bullied. And then it was like, I walked off the set of E news on my fifth callback and was like, I don't want to talk smack about celebrities. I want to change the planet. How the hell am I going to do that? I'm just a girl living in a studio apartment with no college degree. Who can barely pay her rent. Who's going to want to speak to me?

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But that breakdown of I don't know who I am anymore because everything I thought I wanted is bullshit. And my dad's dead, my relationship is dead, my dream's dead. And that, I was literally gonna go take my life that night. Like my plan was like, what do I have to live for? Everything I've ever thought I wanted is a lie. And I have no home, I have no valley, no one gives shit. And all the things I made up about myself with that partner cheating on me. So.

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I literally was like, walked off the set, called my agent, called my manager. I was like, I'm done with this industry. And my plan was to go take the Costco size bottle of Nyquil PM. And I was just going to do it and leave my dog up at running Canyon. Like, cause she was so amazing angel. I'm like, Oh my God, someone's going to pick this dog up. And it was like, what do I have to live for? So it's like, I had to come to this, like it's a wrap. And I ended up enrolling into emotional tolerance training. That completely changed my life. And.

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That was at 33 years on and that's when I became the life purpose cheerleader, wanting to be the cheerleader for others I never had. And so that was about a decade ago now. Wow. Yeah. About a decade ago this last May that I completely did a 180 being like, I don't know what I want, but I know the same end of that every job under the freaking sun from EDM festival promoter to executive assistant to high profile families to nanny and celebrity kids, to working in retail restaurants and beyond. There's.

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nothing for me. It was like this constant search of nothing was enough. And so then I found my purpose at 33 years old. And I've been on that pursuit to support people and unlocking their higher self, their connection to their own unique spirit, their higher self, their guides, goddess, I am whoever they relate to, spirit, angels, universe, and helping people with tangible tools and tips to

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Remember who they are, learn to love themselves and know their worth so that they can actually step in and do the things they want to plan to do. Man. Oh, that was powerful. I was like enthralled a little bit. I was like going down the rabbit hole. I was like, damn, like I was like there. I was like, thank you for sharing all that. Yeah. Thank you, everybody. Now we all take a breath.

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No, I'm going to let Chris, it's like with a question, but I want to say one is almost at the beginning. You said something that really resonated. I'll just say a lot of the resonated. So don't think that this is the only thing. But but I love this notion. If you have a plan B, then you ain't committed.

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Like and I would almost say you might as well start and go after plan B because plan A is never gonna happen If you've got a plan B that goes with relationships, it goes with life. It goes with jobs It goes with anything like it's just truth If you got plan B already backed out you ain't in it For the people in the back. I say this to my students all the time I have a lot of people wanting to start their online businesses

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and they give themselves so many back doors. And I'm like, you know what? I literally tell people, I don't know that this entrepreneur path is for you. I think that maybe you should quit and maybe come work for somebody like me. And they literally look at me like they wanna murder me. And I'm like, I'm just being honest with you. If you're gonna give up at this.

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If your biggest breakdown is like, I'm too scared to post on social media because Sally from high school, is that stopping you or I don't have enough money. My bank account is stopping you from investing in your podcast mic or whatever the heck it is. Like this is going to be a long, painful road. Yes. And I blame the society we're in Uber eats and Amazon prime. It's like instant gratification. Like people want it yesterday. They want it now and they want it to be easy. And it's really screwing people up because.

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What happened to hard work? What happened to commitment? Like your podcast wasn't built overnight. Like you're studying, you're researching, you're showing up, you're doing the things like, people only see like the end result. They don't actually see me in the fetal position crying up at the sky last year when like, my coach's boyfriend slash husband, we found out was a con artist and sold 70 grand for me in a fake real estate deal and partners coming in and totally blowing half a million dollars and doing all this stuff with my business. Nobody sees that.

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They just think, oh, look at them. They've got that million downloads on their podcast and it must be easy and why can't I get my first guest? And you guys like hard work, commitment. If you're gonna give yourself a plan B, like you're not cut out and it's okay. Look at any actor or any professional athlete or any like billionaire. Like they weren't like giving up the first no or like the first, like it's not made for everyone. Like being your own business and.

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being a leader out front and being an entrepreneur, it's not for everybody. Some people are better just working for people and they're leading from behind is leading from the sides. It's all equally as important, but I'm really glad you said that. If you have a plan B, just go to plan B because you will always have a way to fail. And I think for me, like when I started my business, like I said, I walked off, I was like, I burned everything in the sky and was like, okay, great.

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Can't pay my rent. I went from making all this money to none. I don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm shopping at the dollar store for groceries. Talk about tail between your legs. Wow, I was just on television. Now I have no money. What is even happening? Then literally had to eat crow and ask my mom to pay my rent, who I wasn't speaking to. And like literally be like, I have to go all in. And I have no choice. It's check out or go all in. And...

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The biggest risk, the biggest reward. You hear the greatest entrepreneurs of all time talking about this. Be willing, if you're not willing to sleep on the couch for your dreams, then don't even bother because like actors or athletes or anyone, it's like, it's a hard road. And that's the space I was in. I opened a 0% interest credit card. I put my first $5,000 on a coach and I was like, here we go.

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My boyfriend thought I was crazy. My friends thought I was crazy, but I was like, I'm so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am on the definition of insanity. I'm hope wishing and wanting things are gonna change. Nothing's changing. I'm broke again. I'm back here again. Something's gotta change and it needs to be me. So who cares if I've got $5,000 on my credit card? Who gives a F, really? Cause at this point, I don't know what the hell I'm doing and I need some help.

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And that was the best investment I ever made. And I like never, ever looked back. And so I think that's that level of faith and that level of willingness to be relentless in the pursuit of what you want is what it takes to get it. And everyone thinks it's just handed over.

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And it's not going to be handed. Nothing's going to just be handed over. We have initiations and we have lessons we need to learn to get you to where you are. Overnight success is all kind of bullshit. People are like, I'm a, what are they, what do they say? I'm a self-made. It's like bullshit. You had mentors, coaches, people pouring into you along the way. Like you couldn't create this freaking podcast on your own. There's so many little magical angels and they're doing the things.

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So like you guys could do it. But at first you had to do a lot of the things on your own, but like to get it to go where it needs to go, it takes a village. It takes a community. Like nobody's self-made, not even me. I've had so many people quarantine from my teacher in high school to my friends. Families will let me stay with them. And mom kicked me out every week in high school. So we got to do it together, but I love this really landing. Like no plan B. There's a plan A. Did we come on this planet to the good?

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We did alright, like on our last breath. Woo, played it safe, worked a lot, saved a lot of money. Got a lot of money in my pension, my 401k. I hated my life, I worked every day, but I got benefits. So, gone. Gone. Yeah. I like to say we didn't come this far to come this far. Ha ha ha.

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Maybe you think some people want to come see me the ochre life, but that's not gonna be me on my deathbed I'm gonna be like hell. Yeah, that was a ride. I rad that train till the wheels fell off I want to get everything I can out of this life, but that's this round. This is this lifetime for me. I Don't know what the next one's gonna be like So much there's so many things we've hit on that. I want to talk about I think You nailed it with everything both of you with the plan B. I know

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Like you said, everyone's not cut out for it. Even like Ryan, we've talked about this like with our own businesses. And I literally wrote this in my journal this morning. It's not a straight line of success. It's not just up. There's, and I almost feel like from your life experience and not me, myself included, I had to go through really dark, bad times to really.

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I don't know, you need that pain and suffering to transform. Like I truly believe that. Like I think there's a lot of people that coast and like you said, they stay in that safe zone. And it's like you're robbing yourself. And because I look around when I was younger, I'd be like, why did I have to go through this? My thing was drugs and alcohol, 18 to probably 28, really on and off.

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And I used to wonder like, why did I, why am I going through this? Like, why do I have this curse or whatever it is? Yeah. And that's become the biggest benefit of my life. Like that inspired the change and transformation. And it's like the most horrible things that you go through end up being the catalyst to the most powerful change to come to your, your higher self, your best version of you that I know with my own businesses. You chose though. Right. If you choose. Right. There's.

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who are sitting in the gutter right now, completely victims to their addiction, super committed to being right or blaming their dad or their mother or whoever raped them, robbed them, pillaged them, justifying their victim conversation, right? And you totally fucking into that pain. And from 18 to 20, oh my God, that's the easiest way to like numb it out. You know that. But at some point you came to your country, enough is enough. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. And I'm actually going to do something about it.

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But it wasn't through you can't go around it, the fire. One of my mentors, she's a Lakota woman, she says, true medicine woman, and then have to walk right through the fire this lifetime, they can't walk around it. And there's nothing comfortable about walking through that fire. And the only way through is through, but that's what you did and how to talk to you. And you got to unfold and unravel the reason you've used in the first place and go back in and reparent, re-love yourself. Turn that pain into your purpose so that you can pay it forward.

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And that's what I say a lot about the light worker journey, is that light workers in training are victims. I don't say that, Matt Kahn says that in his book, Everything's Happening for You, but light work victims are light workers in training and light workers are earth angels in physical form. And what that means is people like us, they go through this pain.

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lean in, go think, finally find out the gold in the lesson. So then it transforms in that we become our own healer and it heals us. And then we can take it and pay it forward to those who are going through that if we choose. And that's when you step into your lightwork or shit, whether you're in corporate America, the medical field or on a podcast. Right, it's like, it's that pain into that purpose transformation. Everything is on purpose. And that's why we can sit back and go, thank God we have the child since we had the pain we had because now we live.

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learned our lesson, we won't come back another lifetime and did that again. Yeah. A hundred percent. Amber, I want to hear.

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Chris knows these things more than I do. Like he's probably getting closer on the spiritual side. But I want for an audience and to hear some of the nuts and bolts of like your foundational beliefs and what you do and what spirituality is for you and how you mentor people. Talk a little bit about that. And maybe how it's evolved since you started on the journey. Oh, yeah. Wow. Totally. So when I first started out the journey, first of all.

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I was a chicken when my head cut off. As I think I mentioned, I was searching for self-worth in all the wrong places, whether it was the way I looked, how much I exercised five hours a day to being a socialite, rubbing the celebrities, interviewing celebrities. I was honest, never stopping. My entire day was full. I was going from place to place, party to party, because if you slow down long enough, you actually have to look in the mirror. And so people become alcoholics, they become addicted to things so that they don't have to look. So when I finally stopped and looked...

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I was able to realize, oh, meditation, you hear it. Oh, and I used to be like, I don't have time to meditate. Like my mom said, right? I learned a Gabby Bernstein quote was, if you don't have time to meditate, do you have time to feel like shit? And I remember being like, interesting.

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The people are like, I'm too stressed out to meditate. I don't have time and I don't have time and I don't have time. That's also an intimacy conversation. The busiest people are the ones that don't actually want you to see them. They're too busy to get close, to get attached. So it started out with this pursuit of I need to meditate because I need to get more information from God, universe, source, and spirit. So as I mentioned, I grew up Catholic.

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Then I had to make my first confession. I had a total breakdown. I got hit. My parents were called. I was a disgrace to my grandmother and my mother, Russ's grandma. But like I literally was like the bad sheep of the family. And I was like, didn't want to go in a scary box. Like I was scared Jesus is gonna be mad at me for stealing the bubble gum, but the Barbie stickers and my mom went by with these little sticker books, right?

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So I remember being scared of God. And then my dad became a new born again Christian after he got out of his NA and all the things. So we went to a Christian church and then Christian said, oh, you don't have to tell anybody in a scary box. You can just tell God yourself in your heart or outside. I was like, this is amazing. So then that started to unfold. And then in high school, I started to see, I had a friend that was gay and then my friend wasn't allowed to come to church with me.

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And I thought, that's weird because this isn't the Jesus I know doesn't he love everybody? I don't understand. So like, I started to see these like breaks in the like matrix, you know, how kids sometimes call shit out and they're like, because I'm your parent, it's no, there's, I started to see this like a leaky energy, right? And I was like, this doesn't feel right. And why is everyone then I was like, what about the people in Africa who live in a village that don't have television and are they going to hell? Yeah. And I was like, but that doesn't make any sense. There was all these things that started to not make sense as I was in high

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school. So I was like, yeah. And so I was like, really called to like Buddha, right. And I remember buying an urban outfit or just Buddha, taking it and hiding it in the closet because I was. I was like, yeah, but I was something about India, there's something about Buddha, I don't know. So then it was like the seeking and at 19, I'm living on my own in Seattle, I end up in this like Indian bookstore, and I'm finding incense and finding these books. And I'm like, oh my god, I'm home. And like buying these scarves. I'm like, I'm just like, oh my god, this feels

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I followed the feeling. This makes me feel good. I feel light. I feel calm. This can't be the devil. This can't be wrong if I feel this good. So as I started to follow that, as I mentioned in the book, you can heal your life fall off the shelf. And then I got my first card deck, which was called Healing with the Fairies. And I was always attached to it.

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to nature and the fairies. I used to go faring hunting when I was little. So all these things just kind of started coming together. I started to realize the words that I speak, the benefits of my reality. Oh my God, I was manifesting. Oh my God, I was law of attractioning. Oh my God, this is okay. Oh, this is why I was able to get into NFL shooting and I was able to do all these things that like people didn't understand. Oh my God, it's all coming together.

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So like my 20s was this like exploration of following what let me up from yoga and then kundalini yoga, which I was in a really dark place and then we're singing mantras and we're doing breath and I'm like

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feeling really euphoric and I'm like connecting with light and I'm calm and I'm like feeling better in my body because I felt so alone and so abandoned and there's like this ache in my body that I couldn't get rid of. And so that was like how my spiritual journey started to happen and I was listening to Abraham Hicks and I was listening to audiobooks and I was like just following the breadcrumbs and nobody was really on YouTube back then. It was like Abraham Hicks and Louise

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And that car phone was starting to come out or whatever. So that was like the beginning of the journey. And then I just started to go down deep into the transformational work, the self-development work.

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and learning the power of forgiveness and the power of releasing energy out of your body, somatic, doing these processes, mom and dad, and letting the sacred rage come out and then realizing, to your point earlier about transforming these dark times in our lives, I was always like, it's my mom, it's my dad's fault, right? Being mad at my dad for dying, being mad at my dad for not getting us out of that toxic environment with my mom.

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being mad at my mom for being so abusive. I was still a victim to my childhood. And as soon as I was able to make peace with my mom and no longer need her to be this mother that she's never going to be, and just accepted her for her four-year-old self, knowing she was just doing the best she could with the tools she had, and that the way she treated me was my medicine to get me to where I am, I stopped expecting anything from my mom. So the anger in my heart started to dissipate.

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And it was a process, obviously. But for the last 10 years, I still got mom's shit. All right, I got mom's shit. I told my mom I was engaged. She said some nasty shit. I was like, yep, and here we are again. But it doesn't sting as much as it did because I don't no longer need her acceptance. And my whole life was based upon, who will tell me I'm worthy? Who tells me I'm good enough? Whether it's searching in money or success or the high profile job or the 401k or the boat or the freaking motorcycle or whatever it is to make us feel good enough and worthy.

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And so through that space of going through that deep self-development work, learning to love myself, learning to own my worth, to learn that I am significant, that I have something to say, I became a life purpose cheerleader. And I started teaching people meditation. I started teaching people manifestation. I started teaching people about morning ritual practices and creating space to connect with spirit. And for me, for so long, I pray, but I wouldn't actually sit down long enough to shut up and actually listen.

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And prayer is like a two-way conversation, but meditation, if prayer is you talking to God, meditation is God talking to you, which the late Dr. Wayne Dyer quoted, which is one of my favorite quotes of all time. And so I started to realize there was like a breakdown in the connection to the divine. And so I started to just double down on my practices, slowing down, journaling, meditating, pulling cards, being in nature, and just like trusting these synchronicities that just were guiding me to the next thing and starting to believe everything happens for a reason.

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down as the breakthroughs, like the most heartbreak, the most sadness. On the other side of that would be like major blessings and a pivot in my life. The GPS was rerouting. And before I used to be like, I have a curse. Why is this happening to me? Why did my mom do this? Why did my boyfriend do this? And then it was like, okay, cool. Thank you for the detour universe putting me on the path. So I started to change my relationship with what was going on in my environment. And as I learned to love myself, I was starting to attract different friends and different opportunities and more money.

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And so all of these things started to unfold, but I was the center of my universe. I was the common denominator. And so from that space, I started doing four week courses, then five week courses and six week courses and six month programs, and doing these online programs where I was showing up live, bringing people, having them take my training and doing retreats all over the world. And that was teaching people these basic fundamental tools that I myself use to pivot out of the matrix, out of my soul sucking nine to five.

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rat race of getting a good job with benefits so that you're worthy and you're borrowing pay and then stay there until you're too old to travel and then die with the money in your account and be scared of saving for an apocalypse. Like these old paradigm belief systems that were like imprinted. And up until I think in 2020 when my mom's like, when are you gonna go back to school? And I was like, Mom, I made 500k this month. I'm never going back to school.

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And she was like, what? And I was like, mom, I am making more money than all of my friends who are all in debt from college. I am not ever going back to college, mom. It's a business and I don't need a piece of paper. And like, she was just like, I thought I had 17 eyes. So like my family still doesn't know what I do. They still don't get it. They think I'm bat-shed crazy and they think I'm going to hell and it's okay. It's totally cool because I don't need their acceptance anymore.

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So what I do is I help people, they come out to me or I come out to them. We do these deep immersions either virtually, or they come to retreats. I've got one coming up in Morocco. I'll have some in Europe coming up. I help people during their transitions. Like I just helped a friend, bearing her ashes at her mom's, of her mom's at her home. I do ceremonies for people as they are going from maid into mother and having their first child. I help people through transition of breaking up in really shitty partnerships and divorces

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inventing who they are or somebody wants to write a book or launch a program or pivot out of their shitty corporate job is I don't know what I want, but I know it's not it.

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I support them in the unfolding of that journey through giving them support with practicing spiritual tools and practices that can help them get more in line with their truth. And along the way, release these imprintings from mom, dad, the heartbreak from high school, the teacher that told you were an idiot when you were eight, like really just starting to rewire these beliefs, these imprintings, these lies that you were told and created a complete identity around. And so it's like this chance at rebirth.

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Right? So people come to me in those major transitions and yeah, so that's a little bit about what I do and it's changed over time as anything does in business as you guys know, but I'm in a space right now where the world's waking up at a rapid pace and people are losing their shit and the waves are coming. It's destruction. Like people, like it's hitting it hard. And like 2022 for me was like, bam, like 2020 it was like, I couldn't come up. It was like the waves and the sets. And I was like, I don't think I can make it through another.

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betrayal, another breakdown, another, I can't. And I was on my knees again. And now I know why I had to go first because there's so many people that are like, oh, found out my husband's gay, gotta leave. Found out my husband has a sex addiction and slept with 27 people. Also found out my dad's dying of cancer and now I need to go support this. Or it's just, it's like destruction. It's like.

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death portal after death portal of people just like marriage, relationships, friendships are ending, people are dying. It feels everybody's treading water within it. Now more than ever do people have to come back to the light and come back to their heart or it will take them down. These moments are like the waves are going to come in even harder, especially when it's going to planet and like the collapse of the things and this is not a time for us to be scared.

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This is the time for us to breathe. This is the time for us to slow down and know that we will get through this. And there is a new earth that's needing to be born. Like we do need to, we've gotten so far out of alignment of how our ancestors once lived. And we've gotten partnership out. We've released our connection to.

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The water, our water's getting poisoned and I'm not gonna go on a hippie tangent for those of you like, oh, don't start with this though. The air is bad, the food's bad, the seeds are like, all this shit is like, is hitting the fan. We don't have enough food to feed all of America. Have all the borders got shut down? We actually don't have enough food in America to feed our country. That's a problem. So the air is getting worse every day. And this isn't like doom's loom and spiritual or conspiracy theory talking. This is just like the world.

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It has to get worse before it can get better, and it will, and we'll make it through. But this is why so many of the destructions happening within and happening without, because as without, also within. So the best thing we can do is to face off with the things we don't want to guide within our own lives, so that we have the bandwidth to face off with the things that are going out in the outside world.

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Nailed it. Yeah, completely agree. I'm sitting here. I'm creating like a new title for you. That's why my mom, I'm a marketing guy. I'm sitting here going, listen, do you talk? You're a spiritual engineer. Oh, I like that. There you go. I'll give you a cut. You're engineering like. Yeah, I completely agree. Everything you said, it's I do feel there's a massive shift happening and people.

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Because now when I look around, I just see a lot of hurt people. Like a lot of angry, traumatized, like, yeah, just projecting. Like I almost, and thank God I'm at the understanding now where I don't take things as personally because I just know it has nothing to do with me. It's all them. And I was talking to a buddy about this yesterday. The world is crazy right now. It's chaotic. There's just bad shit happening everywhere.

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And it's like, nothing is going to change without you changing from the inside out. And I used to hear that and be like, dude, the change starts with you. And it was like, in one ear out the other. Yeah, I hear you, but. Same.

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Whatever bro. Yeah, you blame it. If all these other conditions changed, then you would change. Like that's how we think. Like, oh, it's those people that need to change their life or whatever, but it's no, it truly is taking each of us coming to our own truth. And like you said, then becoming.

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like a servant to others in a way, bringing deliver that message, serve others, live in purpose. That's a big part of vacay is really, it's my fight against big pharma honestly, is like, hey, there's natural remedies out there that heavens yes, it's going to take a lot of us in a lot. But that's where I think like, even connecting with you, it's like our backgrounds.

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couldn't be any more different. Like I obviously was never a cheerleader. You know? What? Not literally. It just, but that's what's beautiful is meeting all these people, all different walks of life, but everyone is now trying to have a positive impact and spread that message. And I, like you said.

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People need it and they're realizing they need it and people are open to it now because it's like we've done the consumerism We've lived the programming that society told us would make us happy get the job Get the house get the wife get the dog get the kids And I look around And I look around and I see a lot of people that checked all the boxes But I know they're not in their truth and they're not happy. It's like

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The Black Friday at Costco, the 80 inch TV, it's great for two weeks and then it's, I'm sitting next to a person. Yeah, I learned from my friend that was a billionaire that crossed over. I mean, he had a $15 million Picasso in his office that I sat in front of taking my calls and he was flying Goldstream 650s everywhere and he died of a broken heart. It's like he burned himself into the ground for what? And I was like, when's it ever gonna be enough, Lou?

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And he's probably never, he was just on this constant seeking of like self worth and like accolades and acknowledgement. We drink $30,000 bottles of wine. I stayed in $50,000 a night penthouse in Europe. It's, it didn't, I got to see the contrast. I grew up on food stamps every luncheon, you guys. And now I'm on a Goldstream 650 that like Beyonce and everybody's renting from him. And like he built Sam's clubs and Costco's, like I have more money than, and he was still just wanting to be loved.

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at the end of the day, like what searching for was like self-worth and love. That's what it all comes down to. And it's, I love that you're like really putting this in such beautiful, tangible advice. It's like we're riding these waves of we bought the bullshit. Oh, we saw the 1950s stay at home. Wife thing worked out and how, oh, okay. And knock off sweeping all the problems under the rug and getting a good drought with benefits and like all that stuff. Like we've seen all those people slowly dialing with 17 billion cases of medicine on the counter. My aunt and uncle.

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and watching the news. We've seen this wave, right? And now it's like we're coming to, okay, we know that shit's not gonna make us happy. So now what? We open up the hood.

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We face off with the trauma. Yes, we face off with the shit our dad said to us when we were five that we were pieces of shit. Yes, it matters. We're little sponges and little freaking computers getting programmed by everyone and everything. So we've got to do a reboot. We've got to do a system reboot. It's like we're reboot our iPhone and do an upgrade. Like we have to do an upgrade because the universe is reflecting what's going on in the collecting. And if we want to create heaven on earth, we want to create this like rock 5D, like Matt Kahn says,

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first class first, but not everybody. Until everyone's on the plane, it ain't taking off. And so it is about every single person doing their part to do their own healing so we can ascend. A lot of people are gonna refuse and they're gonna die. They're gonna fall off the planet and that's fine. It's not their lifetime to do that. But those of us that are listening to this podcast.

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And those of us who they're in the expo atoria, hold on a second, something fills off. Let me choose my life actually by choice instead of my life choosing me. What am I doing every day? Is this making me happier? Is this what I thought my dad needed to do or my mom wanted to do or my wife wants me to do? Like really starting to look at our own life, as you said, so within, so without be the change you want to see. And our outside world is getting so loud that it's mirroring back to us. What's going on in here?

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And the Neverending Story is my favorite analogy, which I came up with last year. For those of you that might be too young, watch it. It's a cult flick, the Neverending Story. There's this little boy and he basically is getting told by the princess, the world is ending and they're like, give me a name, give me a name. And he's, I can't possibly be the one that's going to save the planet. We are all Sebastian.

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We are all this little boy. Everybody's waiting for Sally and someone else to fix the water and someone else to fix the whales and someone else to do the things, but like we are the one that's going to save the world. We are the savior, the healer that we've been waiting for. But like we are that little boy from the Never Ending Story. Everybody is that significant and that important. And if we transmit our own trauma and we transmit our own pain, our entire world will shift, our inner world and our outer world.

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and then the planet can shift. But that's what's going on right now. The divide is happening. It's happening in families. It's happening in friendships. It's sad. It's painful. But we have to go through this death portal, you guys, before we can lay the foundation of, oh, this shit ain't working. We've got to figure a new way.

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Yeah, I just need that dog that could fly in from never in the never ending story. If I could get that dog. He had floppy ears. He was like a huge dog. You guys gotta watch this movie. First of all, this is my dog who's on the other side now for those of you that are listening. This is Angel. She's on the side but tell me she doesn't look like Valcour. She does look like Valcour. So I was hiking.

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Fangirl story I was hiking running Canyon, which is a hike in Hollywood that I was addicted to running twice a day with angel Up like a psychopath and I was up there hiking hot as hell It'll the day and I run into this old lady who's German and she looks at me and she's your dog Looks like balkor and I was like For and she thought was my move I'm sorry. What she's yeah, I produced that movie and I was like I had a fan

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And I said, what are you talking about? She goes, oh, I lost my, I stole my home, I stole this. I said, I was like, wait a second, I don't understand, that's one of the biggest movies of the 1980s. And she was like, no, that movie flopped in the theater. She goes, it became a cult classic VHS. She goes, I sold the rights to the movie. She didn't make a dollar. She went in debt from that movie. But that was her. And so I manifested the dog for them, I swear,

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on me as a child. Yeah. It's a great movie. It's awesome. I've never watched that as a kid like over and over again. It's just like it's kind of a lot of it was dark but I'll put it on my list for the weekend. I know we're coming down to the end here Amber and I'm not gonna let you get out of here without giving us some card readings or something. Yeah. I was hoping.

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I know I went on a long one in tangent. You guys are gonna have to have me back and you're gonna have to ring a bell to shut me up in between. Yes. And interject, how about that? No, it's great. All right, so I am. Refreshing. Yes. I am going, yay, good. I would love to come back any time. And I would love to also go on your other Radcasts that you do. I would love to just shake it up over there in whatever way. It's called Radcasts. Oh yeah, the Radcast.

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That's such a rad name, by the way. I love the word rad. It's like one of my favorite words I still use to this day. I'm an 80s kid. My agency is called Radical. Shut up. Yeah, me too. Yeah. Oh, my God. Maybe I can do some more. It's all radical. That's the brand. It's so true. Look, I even have my pillows in the room. Oh, can you send me one of those? Yeah, I'll send you a pillow.

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Okay, I'll keep it in here in my office my office Sina. Okay So we're gonna send you a little camera will be sending you out a little love kid. Anyway for coming on the show. Yeah We'll put you some goodies I'm stoked. Okay, so we're pulling from Rebecca Campbell who I'm having a little fangirl moment She's a very famous author on hey house

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Mazel tov. So basically the the book that fell off the shelf when I was 19 was written by Louise Hay. Louise Hay went on to create a major publishing company, which is like a lot of the spiritual leaders in the space and the people that I look up to. And now I have eight friends that are authors on Hay House. My Hay House book is coming, Affirming, Declaring and Demanding that in the snow moment. So Rebecca Campbell reached out to me on Instagram and I had a giddy moment and she was like, can I send you a gift? And I was like, yeah. So I've just people like you guys have similar stories. You should meet.

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She lives in Glastonbury. She's very magical. She's very beautiful, divine, just calm. She came out with this deck called the Healing Waters Oracle. So I literally just got it back. And the water has been a big teacher for me.

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and my students over the last couple of years. And again, growing up as a Catholic and a Christian, being baptized, I have learned to baptize myself, rebaptize myself and who I wanna be without the conforms of the church and all that. So we're gonna pull a card. So who wants to go first and who has a question, you can say it out loud, you can say it in your head, and then we'll pull one card for each of you. So shout out to Rebecca. What's, for example, like,

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Give me like a question example, like what type of questions? I can actually also pull from the animal power deck, which is my friend Alison Charles's deck, which is an animal deck. So you can have a water healing water oracle, which is an oracle reading or you can have an animal power reading. And sometimes you can just ask, what does spirit want me to know? What does the universe want me to know? What do my guides want me to know? What would be the most important for me at this time? Something like that. All right, I'm gonna just, since my last name starts with an A, go first.

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I thought that was like the judicial way. From school. I was always first. Your card already flew out of the deck. OK, perfect. I am asking what the spirits want me to know. All right, so let it rain. Let it rain. Let it rain, baby. Let it rain. OK, ready? Ready, ready, ready. So it's got this.

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Looks like a girl maybe lying on her back. Looks like she's laying on the river or laying on the ocean, but like the sky's full of clouds and a beautiful rainbow and there's like a reflection of water all over the sky. So it's a very beautiful card. So let it rain. What does let it rain wanna say to us? Well, here we go. All right, let it rain. Allowing what is. Trust.

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And I don't know how to say this. Inavitability? Inavilib, inavitability. I don't know why I don't know that word. Inavitability? Inavitability, thank you. Like inevitability? Like inevitable? Yeah, there you go. There's a moment just before it starts to rain when the pressure can be felt. What's building up is preparing for a big release. The clouds cannot hold their breath a moment longer and then right on cue, they surrender the rain they've been holding onto and a downpour finally begins.

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While we may have preferred to see clear skies abound, a sweet relief can be felt when the waters of the sky return to the ground. There's also a special moment that can be felt immediately after the rain stops and the sun reappears from behind the clouds. It's similar to what happens to us during a good emotional cry. The endorphins that are released as we let our red hot tears flow down our cheeks evoke a feeling of sweet relief.

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Sometimes, or excuse me, some things being released, lifted and cleared. We feel a little lighter and more free. This card comes to us with encouragement to surrender to what's happening in your life. Maybe you're experiencing a challenge or something isn't going to plan. Although you might prefer the sun to shine all year round, there's intelligence in the rainy days and there's healing in your tears. Let it rain. Let it rain. Let it rain. What are you being called to surrender to?

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is your soul's inquiry. Mind racing. Something to think about there. I know. I like it. Yeah, I'll take a picture and send it to you so you can journal, ponder. Yeah, I need to journal about that a bit or like meditate. Yeah. What are you being called to surrender to?

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That's your thought. Your. So what a beautiful card. Let it rain. I love that. It's so true, right? Like that feeling when it stops to rain. It was like this peace. Yeah. It's like that exhale rise. Yes.

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Or when you get done crying, you feel so much better. I was actually thinking I needed a good cry or something. That was why you were talking about that. I was like, I don't even know what I'm crying about. You're crying, I'm not crying. The world. I watched Ghost last night and cried my eyes out. I like sobbed. You sobbed last night. That's a great movie. I don't think I'll watch that again. I would cry anyway with that movie as soon as it came on because Patrick Swayze, I'd be crying just when it starts.

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Yeah, what a beautiful soul. All right, Mr. Chris, you're up. This is a card for it. Ready for it. Oh, there you go. Popping out the deck. King tide. Plenty prosperity receiving the fullness of life. Look at that card. It's got a man with his arms wide open. Wow.

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Yeah, it's like water droplets and look how like the foam of the waves is like coming into the beach king tide. I'm into that That's cool. You get the beach. I got rained on what the hell is this? Okay And especially high tide that occurs several times a year when the moon is either new or full and is the closest to the earth

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in its monthly orbit. The King Tide swells the waters of the world. The King Tide is a time of plenty and abundance. It's time when everything seems to be at its fullest and most alive. This card delivers a message of receiving all that you've created, of opening yourself up to truly enjoy the bounty of where you are and while it's here. Like in summer, when the days are at their longest and our energy seems to be at its fullest, we encourage to embrace all of life with open arms.

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to receive holy and fully while we can. Perhaps you've been working towards this moment for a very long time.

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This is a reminder to enjoy it while it's here, to welcome all the knocks on your door, to experience all that life has to offer you right now. This is the card of full blooming flowers in the season of summer. Enjoy the fruits of your labor, lie on the soft grass and take in the view. Do what you love and what makes you come the most alive. Relish everything about smoking. When you're longing, excuse me, what you're longing for is ready for you to embrace it. Be ready to receive.

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What have you been working towards? How can you be, how can you open yourself up to receiving it more fully now while it's here? Beautiful. I love that. That's great. Yeah. I just like the writing. I kind of get mesmerized when you're talking, like while you're reading, like the meanings of each one. I'm like.

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Yeah, that's great. Yeah. Beautiful writer. I definitely would agree to that. So yeah, you guys give her a shout out. Yeah, for sure. Get out. It's a beautiful, very feminine deck, which I think was a nice little compliment to the masculine energy on the show. It's cool. Feminine. The animal power deck would have been welcome back on and we'll put Alison's cards. Yes.

01:01:44
Exactly. But yeah, so that was awesome. Amber, we really appreciate you coming on and we will have to do a part two. I feel like we could talk for hours. It's I'm enthralled with all this. I'm starting to allow myself to think about these things more broadly. So I think you're so open to it, and especially with you guys holding such important leadership positions in your businesses like you guys are the anchor and the preface, preface, preface. I don't know what the word I'm looking for.

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You're like the hub and the anchor of all of your team. And so as you begin to soften into, we're dancing in between this like masculine and feminine polarity, and we're like rewriting the codes of like, where we all fit in and how we all dance and like dancing between the masculine and feminine with each one of us. I think it's really beautiful as the collective masculine begins to soften, begins to allow themselves to feel and we're in a time space where men are.

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allowed to feel now and before they had to hold it together and be strong and boys don't cry and like all these narratives that like really screwed men up and like allowing men to be in their fullest expression of their human experience and especially in areas of leadership like vulnerability is the new way of leadership like leading arm to arm shoulder to shoulder versus I'm up here you're down here like this hierarchy.

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has to go in all areas. And so I think it's really beautiful that you guys are in leadership and you empower leaders and real leaders create other leaders. And please let me know if I can ever come in and do any retreats or workshops or for anybody listening that, you know, the more connected, vulnerable and intimate you can be with your teams, the greater the results. And you can see that from the Seattle Seahawks and how they went on to win the Super Bowl when Pete Carroll

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got to go to therapy once a week and there was like no negative talk and there was like eating really right and like how the whole team completely transformed and there was no like no stars on the team that year it was like everybody was like equal stars so if there's ever a space

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I would love to be the one that you guys' wings and the one beneath your team's wings. They think we all work together and like it doesn't have to be home life and work. It's like this is our life. We spend the majority of our days with the people we work with. And it's like this old paradigm of I don't want to know what's going on with you. And I have to act like I have my shit together. And I can't be honest that I'm like really struggling at home with my marriage or whatever. And it's think about if we could be work families versus this old archaic like leadership way. It's like.

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There's no real human. And it works in other countries. I've got a guy I just met here. He's from Holland. And the time, and the time off, and the breaks in the day, and like, oh, I can't do a meeting before I have to pick up my daughter from school. And it's, oh, OK.

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Like the presidents of the company are like literally saying they have to pick up their child from school. And it's in America, you'd be like, we need to sit you down and write you up because if you take your job, like you're out and it's so different in Europe, the way work is and it's just interesting. So anyway, that was just something I wanted to add. I love it. Amber, where can everybody follow you and find you online? Yeah, I think the best place is Instagram. My website hasn't been updated since 2019 because I get 90% of my business is from Instagram.

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So Instagram is a great place. You can also email me at Amber at Ambervaldez.com. You can also look at my website if you want, Ambervaldez.com, but Instagram is I am Ambervaldez.com. And would love to connect with anyone and support with immersions or retreats or helping through your spiritual awakening or during times of transition, or if you know anybody that would benefit from this podcast and what came through, please share it out so we can keep spreading this beautiful light and.

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just honoring you two. Like you've had so much success in so many other areas and I love that you guys are just like so committed to shining light to people that like would not probably ever have this stuff come across their radar. And it's so neat right now. It's so needed. We've got to really rewire leadership and success and business and all this stuff that's just not serving everyone and keeping everybody so bummed and sad.

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Such a great message. I got goosebumps, honestly, because I'm it's resonating so strongly. And just a great message. You're doing good things for the world. Thank you. You guys are undercover lightworkers. I call you guys undercover lightworkers because you are just creep. There we go. I like that. Now I'm a secret agent for light. That's right. You know, you are. And we need you.

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Yes, I like it. We need you, Ryan. We need your marketing skills on the light side. Okay, my friend. Hey, we do. And that's why I'm getting back into the celebrity space because I'm going to be like infiltrating Hollywood again. I'm starting to come in and if I can activate the people that like create the content in the movies and the television shows, like everybody is informed because the codes of the content are going to shift. So spirits pivoting back. We need that.

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Yeah, and the corporate America. So I'm coming back into corporate America and secret agent for the light. I'm using that. I love that. There you have it. Hey guys, really appreciate everyone listening. You know where to find us? The vacaypodcast.com. You can search for Amber Valdez. You'll find all the episode highlight clips and the full episode from today. I'm Ryan Alford for Chris Hansen and for our special guest, Amber. We'll see you next time on the vacay podcast.